GOLDEN NUGGET: REJECTION
Many of us have experience rejection before, but how do we handle it when it is not from a intimate relationship but from a job search experience?
I was told about my displacement from Sam's Club the last week in February. The day I was given my "White Slip," I had just had a good week before celebrating my 51st birthday. I heard through the rumor mill that some changes may be coming in leadership. I thought to myself, "I am a outstanding Manager. I have never called out in a year. I believe I was only late maybe one time under 9 minutes. I am an outstanding leader. I lead by example. Yes, I am not perfect, but I was new to the Sam's way of doing things. Plus, when I was recruited I lived in Houston, Texas. I relocated to Maryland to start my new journey as a Manager -In- Training and then to join the ranks of management. I can't be on the cutting board. Can, I?"
Yes, I was on the cutting board. I felt at that moment all of my hard work and dedication was not appreciated. I felt devalued.
I was rejected.
I have been rejected many times in my past. However, this time was different. I thought I would be around a long time. I was going to retire here.
My desire was to become a Club Manager. You see, I have over 5 years in Retail Management and over 10 years in the Financial Industry in Management. I had never worked for a Big Box Store before but my background have a lot of transferable skills. Even my Market Manager came from a Human Resource background in which we shared that in common.
I thought, I was the perfect fit!
Until, I received my "White Paper" that basically said, "I was not what they wanted." Here is your advance notice. Spend your days seeking a new job. I walked out of the Club feeling defeated. Being optimistic that I would find a new position some where soon.
I did not own my on laptop because mines crashed a year ago and I never replaced it. I did not need one at the time because I was always at the Club. I was always working. Why spend money on something I barely have time to use.
I made my way to the Baltimore County Public Library to complete my job search activities. I signed up for one of the Baltimore County Public Library free Chrome Books to take home with me. This was before the Coronavirus Pandemic started that have brought the World to its knees.
I had to purchase a laptop now. The BCPL was closing due to the Pandemic. I still need a job! A new revenue source. Income to pay my bills. I need source to continue to contribute to my retirement plan. I am only 51 years young.
I had to remember this is not my war. This is not your war. This is a new opportunity that God has presented to us. We just need to find the right fit.
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I am not who we want!
Rejection!
How do we deal with rejection when you start receiving the second subset of rejection from this next step in our new journey? The first rejection is from the job that has displaced us, lay-off us, or terminated us. The Muse states "we should move forward with a resilient mindset." So when we receive those dreaded letters that say you are not want we want here do not take it personal!
Okay! Let's regroup.
How did we cope before when we was seeking employment? How did we cope before when we was seeking that new contract? How did we cope before when we were searching for that new gig or opportunity?
This time it is different. There is an invisible war that the World is fighting and we have no control over the outcome.
In this the new normal? How do we move past the point of rejection and move forward?
I personal turn to God. I pray. I make sure I have some sort of normal-see. I talk to my friends or family. I talk to God aloud. I put in the atmosphere to God what I am looking for and need in my next opportunity.
I just keep focus.
And, I write!
Writing is one of my outlets to help me express myself. Some people paint. Some people play sports. Some people sing. What ever it is that will help you stay sane that is legal, healthy, and good for your mind, body, spirit, and soul to continue your journey, do it.
Try your best to stay away from any negativity even within yourself. I know it is stressful but we must make it. What God has put in us to bring to the forefront will not happen if we give up now.
Are you focused?!
Rejection! No, just a new stepping stone to where God is taking us.
Some of us are dealing with the other another factor of having children at home while you now search for a new job. I understand that journey too. I went through that in 2008 with the Mortgage Meltdown. I was finishing up my MBA and quite my job right before it happened. I thought I will have job quickly after I finished my MBA. I thought to myself, "I have a great work ethic. Years of experience in the industry."
I just wanted to focus on completing my Master's program. It was getting hard towards the end being a single mom and juggling a full-time job plus school. My only child was in middle school.
Month after month went by. Application after application. Rejection letter after rejection letter. I thought why did I leave my job. Why? I made it all those months juggling every thing, I could have made it a few more months.
I was getting burnt out. I felt it. I was starting to feel defeated. I did not believe I was going to ever find a job. But with the help of a friend who heard about a opening, I did. It took 6 months. I landed a job I loved and I finished my MBA program at the University of Phoenix successfully.
Today, I do not have 6 months to find a new job. In 2008, I was in a better financial picture to make a exit. I had money saved. This time this was not my plan. I was looking forward to having a long career at Sam's Club.
You may not have 6 months either but I believe that if we keep focus and keep on seeking for the right opportunity we will both obtain the right new start for us.
Not rejection, a new opportunity.
Let's journey forward.
Focused.
Ready.
Prepared.
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